This is a quick kick in the butt for those of you who need it (you know who you are). January is 1 day away from being done! That is almost 10% of the year complete, forever gone, adios muchachos. Hesitation kills dreams. Take action now, as now is the only time we have.
If you are wondering why you are not following through with actions that you want, this blog is for you.
The reason we do ANYTHING always comes down to two things; pain and pleasure. If you associate more pain than pleasure in the moment to taking a particular action, you won't do it and vice versa. If only pain is present, you will do the action which causes the least perceived pain. And if only pleasure is present (now THAT is a quality problem), you will do whatever you see will give you the most pleasure.
Extreme example; death. Arguably, death can be seen as the ultimate pain. So why would anybody choose to die? Two examples come to mind; depressed individuals or suicide bombers.
If you are depressed you are associating A LOT of pain to living. If you live this life long enough and continue this pattern of thought, there is a tipping point where the pain of death is perceived to be less than the pain and living.
On the other hand, in order to become a suicide bomber, one would have to associate ultimate pleasure with taking their life. We have heard of such things as their families being taken care of for life, being a hero to your community and country, and of course the harem of virgins awaiting for you in heaven.
Its also worth noting, that most of us will take action to avoid pain, rather than gain pleasure. Quick test of this. Would you work harder to gain $50,000 or to not lose $50,000? Most people would fight like crazy not to lose the $$.
The two key phrases here are "perceived pain or pleasure" and "in the moment."
Perception = Reality
Wither you logically know differently or not, whatever you emotionally feel will override this thought. And this would only apply to that particular moment you are making the decision. After all, once you have made the decision, logic or emotions no longer apply. The exception to this is when you find yourself in conflict, where you attempt to make a decision, then something (pain or pleasure) stops you and forces you back to the decision point again (also known as hell!).
In summary, if you find yourself procrastinating, ask yourself, "What pain or pleasure have I associated with this particular task?". Then, be honest with yourself and hook up pleasure in doing the action and massive pain in not.
If you find yourself in conflict or in need of help, you should consult a coach. Now geeeeeee... if I only knew who I could refer you to.......
Dream your life. Love your dream.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Like a Virgin in Vegas
First off, something tells me a virgin wouldn't last too long in Sin City!
HAPPY 2010!!! How are your New Years resolutions coming along? Having challenges sticking with them? If so, make sure to visit my website regularly as I will be posting some exciting updates soon. And for those who resolved not to make any resolutions, heed these words: "The only constant in life is change". If you are not deciding your future, who is?
OK, time to get to today's blog...
Me and a good friend returned from Vegas not so long ago where we attended a Business Mastery seminar hosted by the one and only Tony Robbins (you the man Tony... you the man). It was his first time and I had been there once before about 3 years ago (also on business).
As the plane commenced its final decent into Vegas, my friend was bubbling with anticipation. I on the other hand was relatively calm... after all, I had been there before.
Arriving at our hotel (the Venetian!), he was blown away by the lobby; the sheer size and detail! I on the other hand was expecting this... after all, I stayed at Caesar's Palace last time.
Walking down the strip, he had his camera ready and was quick to point out... well... pretty much everything. I looked at him in amusement and took in the sights... after all, I had seen this before.
Day 1 of the event, I thought he might wet his pants as the crowd worked itself into a frenzy waiting for Tony Robbins to hit the stage. OK, I was excited too, but he had that extra special anticipation.
Going for lunch, he commented on all the different (especially high end) stores, the size of the hotel, and all the attractions along the way to the food court. I was focused on getting some food in my stomach... after all, this wasn't new to me.
Pretty much the entire trip, his level of excitement over the smallest things way surpassed mine. It appeared he was having WAY more fun than I was. Makes sense... after all, I had been to Vegas once before.
So??? I had been to Vegas ONCE before and even then barely got to see it! It's not like I am an expert on the place and even if I was... SO????
How does having seen or experienced something take away from the awesomeness of the event? IT DOESN'T!
How would your experience of life be different if you were doing so as if it was the first time...
your first time waking up beside your lover...
your first time having sex...
your first time putting on comfy socks...
your first time eating your favourite breakfast...
your first experience in a car (but please drive like you know what you are doing! ha ha)...
your first time outside...
your first time breathing in a full breathe...
your first time telling somebody you love them...
your first sunset...
What would you notice differently?
What is in your life now you would have killed to have in your life only years or maybe only even months ago?
WHO is in your life your life?
What amazing areas of your life have you become desensitized to that you simply need to reconnect with and re-appreciate?
I challenge you all to experience a day with virgin eyes, virgin ears, a virgin nose, a virgin mouth, virgin hands, a virgin body......... a virgin heart.
If Madonna can sing about being touched like a virgin, we can certainly relive it at least once!
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
http://www.brycehealey.com/
Now on Twitter: http://twitter.com/coachbryce
HAPPY 2010!!! How are your New Years resolutions coming along? Having challenges sticking with them? If so, make sure to visit my website regularly as I will be posting some exciting updates soon. And for those who resolved not to make any resolutions, heed these words: "The only constant in life is change". If you are not deciding your future, who is?
OK, time to get to today's blog...
Me and a good friend returned from Vegas not so long ago where we attended a Business Mastery seminar hosted by the one and only Tony Robbins (you the man Tony... you the man). It was his first time and I had been there once before about 3 years ago (also on business).
As the plane commenced its final decent into Vegas, my friend was bubbling with anticipation. I on the other hand was relatively calm... after all, I had been there before.
Arriving at our hotel (the Venetian!), he was blown away by the lobby; the sheer size and detail! I on the other hand was expecting this... after all, I stayed at Caesar's Palace last time.
Walking down the strip, he had his camera ready and was quick to point out... well... pretty much everything. I looked at him in amusement and took in the sights... after all, I had seen this before.
Day 1 of the event, I thought he might wet his pants as the crowd worked itself into a frenzy waiting for Tony Robbins to hit the stage. OK, I was excited too, but he had that extra special anticipation.
Going for lunch, he commented on all the different (especially high end) stores, the size of the hotel, and all the attractions along the way to the food court. I was focused on getting some food in my stomach... after all, this wasn't new to me.
Pretty much the entire trip, his level of excitement over the smallest things way surpassed mine. It appeared he was having WAY more fun than I was. Makes sense... after all, I had been to Vegas once before.
So??? I had been to Vegas ONCE before and even then barely got to see it! It's not like I am an expert on the place and even if I was... SO????
How does having seen or experienced something take away from the awesomeness of the event? IT DOESN'T!
How would your experience of life be different if you were doing so as if it was the first time...
your first time waking up beside your lover...
your first time having sex...
your first time putting on comfy socks...
your first time eating your favourite breakfast...
your first experience in a car (but please drive like you know what you are doing! ha ha)...
your first time outside...
your first time breathing in a full breathe...
your first time telling somebody you love them...
your first sunset...
What would you notice differently?
What is in your life now you would have killed to have in your life only years or maybe only even months ago?
WHO is in your life your life?
What amazing areas of your life have you become desensitized to that you simply need to reconnect with and re-appreciate?
I challenge you all to experience a day with virgin eyes, virgin ears, a virgin nose, a virgin mouth, virgin hands, a virgin body......... a virgin heart.
If Madonna can sing about being touched like a virgin, we can certainly relive it at least once!
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
http://www.brycehealey.com/
Now on Twitter: http://twitter.com/coachbryce
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