You have probably heard this so often that you accept it as such and WHAMMO you have a belief installed into the fiber of your being. A belief which affects the decisions you make and the way you see and shape your world on a conscious and unconscious level.
Perhaps it started as a kid when you were playing with magnets. Next thing you know this belief was applied to the dating world and so we search for our opposite.
What if this belief wasn't true?
What if opposites repell and likes attract?
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I first started to question the theory that 'opposites attract' after reading in many different personal development and success books how 'likes attract'. A simple example would be if you focus your mind on riches and you get riches, conversely you focus on debt and you get debt.
Given that universal laws apply universally, how could two laws exist which directly contradict each other?
As it turns out one of them doesn't exist (except for in our minds) and you guessed it, it's 'Opposites Attract' when instead the reality is that LIKES ATTRACT and OPPOSITES REPEL.
THE MAGNET UNDERSTOOD
The below shows the magnetic lines of force surrounding a magnet. As you can see, they come out of the North end at enter the South end therefore flowing South to North.
The following shows two magnets with like ends pointing towards each other. Yes the like ends will repel each other which seems to go against the point I am making, however if you look at the flow of the magnetic lines, which is the natural force at hand, they are OPPOSITE (i.e.: they are flowing directly against each other) and therefore are REPELLING.
The next picture depicts the reverse. As you can see, even though we have them labelled as opposite ends, it is again the underlying natural force which follows the Universal Law, which is that LIKES ATTRACT.
OK, so that explains magnet, but what about relationships? How does the Universal Law of Likes Attract apply?
Quick definitions: by Relationship I am referring to everything from a friendship to an intimate relationship and Attraction does not necessarily mean physical attraction.
Simply put, you are attracted to those who you feel are like you. There are common bonds between you and all of your friends, wither they be good or bad bonds. An example of bad may be drug or alcolohol use/abuse.
At work, you and your colleagues have a common bond or mission; that of the company. In organization where there is not a clear mission, or where departmental missions are stronger than the overall mission, you will see departments and people repel as the organization falls apart.
This can also be seen in sports teams... the common and dominating force is that of winning! If an individual has a dominating force other than that of the team (for example: showing off), that person will be repelled by the team and the overall force of the team will be lower UNLESS you can align their 'showing off' with the team winning.
Going back to individual relationships, when you first start dating somebody, you go through an interview like process where you are seeking out all of the common bonds. What is interesting, is that you don't need to agree to have the bond. For example, two people who are very passionate about sports but different teams. Even though they have opposing opinions, the common bond is the love of that sport!
This would also explain that you tend to attract people who are going through the same struggles as you.
OK, SO HOW DOES THIS APPLY TO ME?
Consider yourself one big, walking, talking magnet. If you don't like what you are attracting, ask yourself what there might be in your life that is attracting this (and of course remembering that LIKES ATTRACT).
The other lesson goes hand in hand with focus. A popular example would be getting out of debt. If you want to get out of debt, instead of focussing on paying off debt, focus on gaining money. A real life example, I have a fishbowl on my desk with a picture of my future Harley on it. A few months ago I put $40 in it as an experiement to start attracting money. I then found myself throwing in change and the odd bill into it. One day my dad was visiting and he even felt the attraction and threw some money in. I still have a ways to go before this money attracts the Harley, however the point here is if I had never started I would have no money in there.
Like attracts like.
Dream your life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
PS - Kinda makes you wonder what other beliefs you may need to reconsider....
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