Tony Robbins has said that "It is in the moments of decision that your destiny is shaped." For the context of this blog let's simplify to "It is in the moments that destiny is shaped."
If your moment to shine... to perform... to serve... to STEP UP and make a meaningful difference... called upon you, would you be ready to answer?
If the sales opportunity of a life time stepped into an elevator right now, what would you do?
If your ultimate career opportunity presented itself, are you prepared?
If the person of your dreams sat down next to you, do you even know what you would say?
If you had to make a decision right now that would define the direction of your life, would you know how to weigh out the options?
If life called upon you right now, are you ready... mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually?
"What we practice in private will be rewarded in public" - Maxim
Intellectually I understood this maxim and just recently it really started to hit home, but it wasn't until this evening that it became a part of me at a fundamental level.
As some of you may know, in addition to Coaching and Training, I am a Wedding Officiant. As I arrived onsite to perform a ceremony today, I was quickly ushered into a side room where I could see both the bride and groom together and the groom was sitting down crying… these were not tears of joy. It was only 15 minutes before the ceremony was scheduled to begin and he had just found out that his mother had been rushed to the intensive care unit of the hospital.
'Fortunately' I had watched a training video just 3 days ago which gave me the framework to best handle such an intense and delicate situation. Using this framework as well as the skills I have learned and practiced as a Coach, I was able to step up and make a difference in a moment of need. What took place next was the most powerful ceremony I have ever witnessed or been a part of. Peace prevailed allowing Love to shine through.
If it wasn't for all the hours I had spent learning and, more importantly, reviewing and practicing my skills in private, there is no way I would have been ready to play my part.
I don't say this to impress you, I say this to impress upon you the importance of 'practicing in private' or as the Boy Scouts of America would say, to "Be Prepared.".
Too often we only prepare or practice when there is an immediate perceived benefit.... a planned event such as an interview.
Life, however, is what happens between the plans.
Dream you life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
Showing posts with label What If. Show all posts
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Friday, June 18, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Food for thought
If you have felt something all of your life, how would you know if it is good or bad?
In my on-going pursuit to live life to the fullest, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet according to a book called Eat Right for Your Blood Type.
It makes sense that that not all diets are meant for all people. In this book Dr. Peter J D'Adamo goes into great detail to list the foods that are either beneficial, neutral, or harmful depending on if your blood type is O, A, B, or AB.
So again, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet to take out things like Corn and Potatoes (2 of my staples ever since I was born!!!) and eat according to my O blood type. I had a very good nutrition plan in place before this, so I didn't notice any major differences right away. However lately I have started noticing small things such as not feeling any little aches in my bones/back as much, more mental clarity, and what can only be described as a more stable flow of energy (i.e.: less ups and downs.. peaks and valleys).
But the biggest difference and adjustment has been that its rare I feel trully full! All my life (or at least as long as I can remember), I would eat... eat... and eat some more and then feel full for about 30-60 minutes afterwards. You know... that feeling that you get after a nice big turkey supper (just not that extreme! ha ha).
Now, there'll be a big plate of food in front of me, which I devour in my usual ferocity, but when I am done I don't feel full. The hunger is gone and I don't have any real desire to eat any more, but I don't feel full. Even now, I question if I should keep eating until I feel this feeling of full I have been feeling all my life. After all, feeling full used to be the signal to me to stop putting food in my mouth. Could this have been wrong all my life? Is this how you are meant to feel?
All very strange and gets me curious as to what other feelings I may be experience which are either wrong or misleading.
What thoughts or feelings have you had your entire life (or a long time) which you have just accepted as life but in reality may not be appropriate?
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
In my on-going pursuit to live life to the fullest, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet according to a book called Eat Right for Your Blood Type.
It makes sense that that not all diets are meant for all people. In this book Dr. Peter J D'Adamo goes into great detail to list the foods that are either beneficial, neutral, or harmful depending on if your blood type is O, A, B, or AB.
So again, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet to take out things like Corn and Potatoes (2 of my staples ever since I was born!!!) and eat according to my O blood type. I had a very good nutrition plan in place before this, so I didn't notice any major differences right away. However lately I have started noticing small things such as not feeling any little aches in my bones/back as much, more mental clarity, and what can only be described as a more stable flow of energy (i.e.: less ups and downs.. peaks and valleys).
But the biggest difference and adjustment has been that its rare I feel trully full! All my life (or at least as long as I can remember), I would eat... eat... and eat some more and then feel full for about 30-60 minutes afterwards. You know... that feeling that you get after a nice big turkey supper (just not that extreme! ha ha).
Now, there'll be a big plate of food in front of me, which I devour in my usual ferocity, but when I am done I don't feel full. The hunger is gone and I don't have any real desire to eat any more, but I don't feel full. Even now, I question if I should keep eating until I feel this feeling of full I have been feeling all my life. After all, feeling full used to be the signal to me to stop putting food in my mouth. Could this have been wrong all my life? Is this how you are meant to feel?
All very strange and gets me curious as to what other feelings I may be experience which are either wrong or misleading.
What thoughts or feelings have you had your entire life (or a long time) which you have just accepted as life but in reality may not be appropriate?
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Misunderstood Magnets Mislead
How often have you heard the expression, "Opposites attract."?
You have probably heard this so often that you accept it as such and WHAMMO you have a belief installed into the fiber of your being. A belief which affects the decisions you make and the way you see and shape your world on a conscious and unconscious level.
Perhaps it started as a kid when you were playing with magnets. Next thing you know this belief was applied to the dating world and so we search for our opposite.
What if this belief wasn't true?
What if opposites repell and likes attract?
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I first started to question the theory that 'opposites attract' after reading in many different personal development and success books how 'likes attract'. A simple example would be if you focus your mind on riches and you get riches, conversely you focus on debt and you get debt.
Given that universal laws apply universally, how could two laws exist which directly contradict each other?
As it turns out one of them doesn't exist (except for in our minds) and you guessed it, it's 'Opposites Attract' when instead the reality is that LIKES ATTRACT and OPPOSITES REPEL.
THE MAGNET UNDERSTOOD
The below shows the magnetic lines of force surrounding a magnet. As you can see, they come out of the North end at enter the South end therefore flowing South to North.
The following shows two magnets with like ends pointing towards each other. Yes the like ends will repel each other which seems to go against the point I am making, however if you look at the flow of the magnetic lines, which is the natural force at hand, they are OPPOSITE (i.e.: they are flowing directly against each other) and therefore are REPELLING.
The next picture depicts the reverse. As you can see, even though we have them labelled as opposite ends, it is again the underlying natural force which follows the Universal Law, which is that LIKES ATTRACT.
OK, so that explains magnet, but what about relationships? How does the Universal Law of Likes Attract apply?
Quick definitions: by Relationship I am referring to everything from a friendship to an intimate relationship and Attraction does not necessarily mean physical attraction.
Simply put, you are attracted to those who you feel are like you. There are common bonds between you and all of your friends, wither they be good or bad bonds. An example of bad may be drug or alcolohol use/abuse.
At work, you and your colleagues have a common bond or mission; that of the company. In organization where there is not a clear mission, or where departmental missions are stronger than the overall mission, you will see departments and people repel as the organization falls apart.
This can also be seen in sports teams... the common and dominating force is that of winning! If an individual has a dominating force other than that of the team (for example: showing off), that person will be repelled by the team and the overall force of the team will be lower UNLESS you can align their 'showing off' with the team winning.
Going back to individual relationships, when you first start dating somebody, you go through an interview like process where you are seeking out all of the common bonds. What is interesting, is that you don't need to agree to have the bond. For example, two people who are very passionate about sports but different teams. Even though they have opposing opinions, the common bond is the love of that sport!
This would also explain that you tend to attract people who are going through the same struggles as you.
OK, SO HOW DOES THIS APPLY TO ME?
Consider yourself one big, walking, talking magnet. If you don't like what you are attracting, ask yourself what there might be in your life that is attracting this (and of course remembering that LIKES ATTRACT).
The other lesson goes hand in hand with focus. A popular example would be getting out of debt. If you want to get out of debt, instead of focussing on paying off debt, focus on gaining money. A real life example, I have a fishbowl on my desk with a picture of my future Harley on it. A few months ago I put $40 in it as an experiement to start attracting money. I then found myself throwing in change and the odd bill into it. One day my dad was visiting and he even felt the attraction and threw some money in. I still have a ways to go before this money attracts the Harley, however the point here is if I had never started I would have no money in there.
Like attracts like.
Dream your life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
PS - Kinda makes you wonder what other beliefs you may need to reconsider....
You have probably heard this so often that you accept it as such and WHAMMO you have a belief installed into the fiber of your being. A belief which affects the decisions you make and the way you see and shape your world on a conscious and unconscious level.
Perhaps it started as a kid when you were playing with magnets. Next thing you know this belief was applied to the dating world and so we search for our opposite.
What if this belief wasn't true?
What if opposites repell and likes attract?
.
.
.
I first started to question the theory that 'opposites attract' after reading in many different personal development and success books how 'likes attract'. A simple example would be if you focus your mind on riches and you get riches, conversely you focus on debt and you get debt.
Given that universal laws apply universally, how could two laws exist which directly contradict each other?
As it turns out one of them doesn't exist (except for in our minds) and you guessed it, it's 'Opposites Attract' when instead the reality is that LIKES ATTRACT and OPPOSITES REPEL.
THE MAGNET UNDERSTOOD
The below shows the magnetic lines of force surrounding a magnet. As you can see, they come out of the North end at enter the South end therefore flowing South to North.
The following shows two magnets with like ends pointing towards each other. Yes the like ends will repel each other which seems to go against the point I am making, however if you look at the flow of the magnetic lines, which is the natural force at hand, they are OPPOSITE (i.e.: they are flowing directly against each other) and therefore are REPELLING.
The next picture depicts the reverse. As you can see, even though we have them labelled as opposite ends, it is again the underlying natural force which follows the Universal Law, which is that LIKES ATTRACT.
OK, so that explains magnet, but what about relationships? How does the Universal Law of Likes Attract apply?
Quick definitions: by Relationship I am referring to everything from a friendship to an intimate relationship and Attraction does not necessarily mean physical attraction.
Simply put, you are attracted to those who you feel are like you. There are common bonds between you and all of your friends, wither they be good or bad bonds. An example of bad may be drug or alcolohol use/abuse.
At work, you and your colleagues have a common bond or mission; that of the company. In organization where there is not a clear mission, or where departmental missions are stronger than the overall mission, you will see departments and people repel as the organization falls apart.
This can also be seen in sports teams... the common and dominating force is that of winning! If an individual has a dominating force other than that of the team (for example: showing off), that person will be repelled by the team and the overall force of the team will be lower UNLESS you can align their 'showing off' with the team winning.
Going back to individual relationships, when you first start dating somebody, you go through an interview like process where you are seeking out all of the common bonds. What is interesting, is that you don't need to agree to have the bond. For example, two people who are very passionate about sports but different teams. Even though they have opposing opinions, the common bond is the love of that sport!
This would also explain that you tend to attract people who are going through the same struggles as you.
OK, SO HOW DOES THIS APPLY TO ME?
Consider yourself one big, walking, talking magnet. If you don't like what you are attracting, ask yourself what there might be in your life that is attracting this (and of course remembering that LIKES ATTRACT).
The other lesson goes hand in hand with focus. A popular example would be getting out of debt. If you want to get out of debt, instead of focussing on paying off debt, focus on gaining money. A real life example, I have a fishbowl on my desk with a picture of my future Harley on it. A few months ago I put $40 in it as an experiement to start attracting money. I then found myself throwing in change and the odd bill into it. One day my dad was visiting and he even felt the attraction and threw some money in. I still have a ways to go before this money attracts the Harley, however the point here is if I had never started I would have no money in there.
Like attracts like.
Dream your life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
PS - Kinda makes you wonder what other beliefs you may need to reconsider....
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Like a Virgin in Vegas
First off, something tells me a virgin wouldn't last too long in Sin City!
HAPPY 2010!!! How are your New Years resolutions coming along? Having challenges sticking with them? If so, make sure to visit my website regularly as I will be posting some exciting updates soon. And for those who resolved not to make any resolutions, heed these words: "The only constant in life is change". If you are not deciding your future, who is?
OK, time to get to today's blog...
Me and a good friend returned from Vegas not so long ago where we attended a Business Mastery seminar hosted by the one and only Tony Robbins (you the man Tony... you the man). It was his first time and I had been there once before about 3 years ago (also on business).
As the plane commenced its final decent into Vegas, my friend was bubbling with anticipation. I on the other hand was relatively calm... after all, I had been there before.
Arriving at our hotel (the Venetian!), he was blown away by the lobby; the sheer size and detail! I on the other hand was expecting this... after all, I stayed at Caesar's Palace last time.
Walking down the strip, he had his camera ready and was quick to point out... well... pretty much everything. I looked at him in amusement and took in the sights... after all, I had seen this before.
Day 1 of the event, I thought he might wet his pants as the crowd worked itself into a frenzy waiting for Tony Robbins to hit the stage. OK, I was excited too, but he had that extra special anticipation.
Going for lunch, he commented on all the different (especially high end) stores, the size of the hotel, and all the attractions along the way to the food court. I was focused on getting some food in my stomach... after all, this wasn't new to me.
Pretty much the entire trip, his level of excitement over the smallest things way surpassed mine. It appeared he was having WAY more fun than I was. Makes sense... after all, I had been to Vegas once before.
So??? I had been to Vegas ONCE before and even then barely got to see it! It's not like I am an expert on the place and even if I was... SO????
How does having seen or experienced something take away from the awesomeness of the event? IT DOESN'T!
How would your experience of life be different if you were doing so as if it was the first time...
your first time waking up beside your lover...
your first time having sex...
your first time putting on comfy socks...
your first time eating your favourite breakfast...
your first experience in a car (but please drive like you know what you are doing! ha ha)...
your first time outside...
your first time breathing in a full breathe...
your first time telling somebody you love them...
your first sunset...
What would you notice differently?
What is in your life now you would have killed to have in your life only years or maybe only even months ago?
WHO is in your life your life?
What amazing areas of your life have you become desensitized to that you simply need to reconnect with and re-appreciate?
I challenge you all to experience a day with virgin eyes, virgin ears, a virgin nose, a virgin mouth, virgin hands, a virgin body......... a virgin heart.
If Madonna can sing about being touched like a virgin, we can certainly relive it at least once!
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
http://www.brycehealey.com/
Now on Twitter: http://twitter.com/coachbryce
HAPPY 2010!!! How are your New Years resolutions coming along? Having challenges sticking with them? If so, make sure to visit my website regularly as I will be posting some exciting updates soon. And for those who resolved not to make any resolutions, heed these words: "The only constant in life is change". If you are not deciding your future, who is?
OK, time to get to today's blog...
Me and a good friend returned from Vegas not so long ago where we attended a Business Mastery seminar hosted by the one and only Tony Robbins (you the man Tony... you the man). It was his first time and I had been there once before about 3 years ago (also on business).
As the plane commenced its final decent into Vegas, my friend was bubbling with anticipation. I on the other hand was relatively calm... after all, I had been there before.
Arriving at our hotel (the Venetian!), he was blown away by the lobby; the sheer size and detail! I on the other hand was expecting this... after all, I stayed at Caesar's Palace last time.
Walking down the strip, he had his camera ready and was quick to point out... well... pretty much everything. I looked at him in amusement and took in the sights... after all, I had seen this before.
Day 1 of the event, I thought he might wet his pants as the crowd worked itself into a frenzy waiting for Tony Robbins to hit the stage. OK, I was excited too, but he had that extra special anticipation.
Going for lunch, he commented on all the different (especially high end) stores, the size of the hotel, and all the attractions along the way to the food court. I was focused on getting some food in my stomach... after all, this wasn't new to me.
Pretty much the entire trip, his level of excitement over the smallest things way surpassed mine. It appeared he was having WAY more fun than I was. Makes sense... after all, I had been to Vegas once before.
So??? I had been to Vegas ONCE before and even then barely got to see it! It's not like I am an expert on the place and even if I was... SO????
How does having seen or experienced something take away from the awesomeness of the event? IT DOESN'T!
How would your experience of life be different if you were doing so as if it was the first time...
your first time waking up beside your lover...
your first time having sex...
your first time putting on comfy socks...
your first time eating your favourite breakfast...
your first experience in a car (but please drive like you know what you are doing! ha ha)...
your first time outside...
your first time breathing in a full breathe...
your first time telling somebody you love them...
your first sunset...
What would you notice differently?
What is in your life now you would have killed to have in your life only years or maybe only even months ago?
WHO is in your life your life?
What amazing areas of your life have you become desensitized to that you simply need to reconnect with and re-appreciate?
I challenge you all to experience a day with virgin eyes, virgin ears, a virgin nose, a virgin mouth, virgin hands, a virgin body......... a virgin heart.
If Madonna can sing about being touched like a virgin, we can certainly relive it at least once!
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
http://www.brycehealey.com/
Now on Twitter: http://twitter.com/coachbryce
Monday, December 28, 2009
Live in the now
It’s my last morning in Mexico. I am sitting out in the hotel lobby and in about an hour the shuttle will come and take me and the rest of my family off to the airport.
At the very least, it is an overcast day, so it makes it a little easier to leave. That being said, it is always tough when something you have been looking forward to for months comes to an end, especially when a winter wonderland awaits you! As the saying goes, all good things eventually come to an end.
Let me say this again, one day, everything good in your life will end. Vacations end, your favourite car eventually needs to be replaced, great jobs change, moments pass, pets die, and even the best thing in life (your relationships) will eventually end when either you or they pass on.
Morbid, perhaps, but it’s a fact. Rather than be in denial of this fact, accept it and EMBRACE it! The very fact that all of these things are finite are what make them special.
You could choose to live in the past and dwell upon all the things that used to be in your life that are no longer there, but that would make for a pretty sad life.
You could live entirely in the future, dreaming of what is to be. Saying things like ‘WHEN I get my promotion, things will be different’ or ‘WHEN the new year arrives I will change’ or ‘WHEN I win the lottery, then I can be happy’. WHAT IF… WHEN never comes???
The only ‘WHEN’ is now. EMBRACE the moments you have in the present. Be happy, now. Feel RICH, now. Enjoy, NOW.
Be grateful for all those magical moments in the past as well as every thing you have in the present. Ensure you have a future that excites you, as with every ending ushers in a great new beginning.
But again, love and live to the fullest, now. For now, is the only time we will ever have.
Your friend and coach,
Bryce
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Knowledge is Potential Power
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
I just finished a book called 'blink', by Malcolm Gladwell. He ends the book with the following lines (no worries, it won't ruin anything):
"Once we know about how the mind works - and about the strengths and weaknesses of human judgement - it is our responsibility to act."
Using one of my new fav. questions, I challenged this and asked myself, "WHAT IF... I didn't act with this new found knowledge?". And hence the title for today's post; "Knowledge is potential power."
Let's take going to college or university for example. If you diligently read your books, did your assignments, etc... you would have lots of additional knowledge. Would this result in any difference in your life? Other than student loans, new friends, and some liver damage, no.
The difference comes when you 'act' with this knowledge. Going to school, reading a book, or learning in any capacity in general is much like charging up a battery with a limitless capacity. You can charge it all you want and it will have even more and more potential power, but until you put the battery to use, it is worthless.
Let's expand this thought even further. The same would apply to all 'resources' in our life, wouldn't it? And by resources, I am referring to anything you have at your disposal; knowledge, money, friends/family/your network of people, material items, your physical self, etc...
For example, being born in Canada instantly gave me access to a lot more resources (education, libraries, healthcare, infrastructure, etc...) than let's say somebody born in a developing country. That being said, they would have access to resources that I wouldn't... at least not initially. But again, if I don't act and make use of these resources they are worthless.
One thing to keep in mind is that just as with any battery, a resource needs to be charged from time to time or else it will run dry.
A trend you will find in the most successful people is that they #1 have access to a vast array of resources (and more than just $$$) and #2 they use them to their full potential when appropriate. Some were born into a world of resources and others chose to continously expand their resources.
What resources are in your life which you are not leveraging to their full potential? What are all the ways you could expand your resources? What resources may need a recharge?
And to bring it back to the opening quote and end today's post on a philosophical note: once you know about these resources, is it our responsibility to act and use them?
Doing so could result in not only expanding your own resources, but also potentially that of the entire world! This effect then compounds and is returned geometrically!
Reminds me of a proverb; the more you give the more you get.
Your friend and coach,
Bryce
I just finished a book called 'blink', by Malcolm Gladwell. He ends the book with the following lines (no worries, it won't ruin anything):
"Once we know about how the mind works - and about the strengths and weaknesses of human judgement - it is our responsibility to act."
Using one of my new fav. questions, I challenged this and asked myself, "WHAT IF... I didn't act with this new found knowledge?". And hence the title for today's post; "Knowledge is potential power."
Let's take going to college or university for example. If you diligently read your books, did your assignments, etc... you would have lots of additional knowledge. Would this result in any difference in your life? Other than student loans, new friends, and some liver damage, no.
The difference comes when you 'act' with this knowledge. Going to school, reading a book, or learning in any capacity in general is much like charging up a battery with a limitless capacity. You can charge it all you want and it will have even more and more potential power, but until you put the battery to use, it is worthless.
Let's expand this thought even further. The same would apply to all 'resources' in our life, wouldn't it? And by resources, I am referring to anything you have at your disposal; knowledge, money, friends/family/your network of people, material items, your physical self, etc...
For example, being born in Canada instantly gave me access to a lot more resources (education, libraries, healthcare, infrastructure, etc...) than let's say somebody born in a developing country. That being said, they would have access to resources that I wouldn't... at least not initially. But again, if I don't act and make use of these resources they are worthless.
One thing to keep in mind is that just as with any battery, a resource needs to be charged from time to time or else it will run dry.
A trend you will find in the most successful people is that they #1 have access to a vast array of resources (and more than just $$$) and #2 they use them to their full potential when appropriate. Some were born into a world of resources and others chose to continously expand their resources.
What resources are in your life which you are not leveraging to their full potential? What are all the ways you could expand your resources? What resources may need a recharge?
And to bring it back to the opening quote and end today's post on a philosophical note: once you know about these resources, is it our responsibility to act and use them?
Doing so could result in not only expanding your own resources, but also potentially that of the entire world! This effect then compounds and is returned geometrically!
Reminds me of a proverb; the more you give the more you get.
Your friend and coach,
Bryce
Friday, December 18, 2009
What if....
INTRO
Some of my posts will be information, some of them humorous, some of them are meant to get you thinking, some of them (like this one) are simply a documentation of stuff that is rattling through my mind, and no doubt all will be a combination of the above! ha ha
On my trip of personal development, I have made it a habit to ask myself some tough questions.
For example: On August 16th, I asked myself:
- What is important to me in a 'job'?
- What type of book(s) would I bring on vacation with me to read?
- What would I still do if I never received any recognition for it; monetarily and socially?
This led me to discovering my destiny; being a world-class coach and professional speaker.
After attending Tony Robbins' signature event Date with Destiny last week, several new questions popped into my head which have become part of my daily routine. Two words form the basis of what is turning out to be some of the most powerful questions. Questions that have the potential to truly rock the foundation of my soul.
THE QUESTION
Something tells me you may just already know which two words I am referring to; 'What if...'. In the following example, I am using my 'What if...' questions to explore me being self centered. It can be used to explore any belief/assumption/reality you have in life.
What if this situation has nothing to do with me?
What if I had no control over what people thought of me?
What if the way that person is treating me/behaving around me has nothing to do with me?
What if the only way to fulfill my self (spacing intentional), is by being selfless?
What if the purpose of my life had nothing to do with me?
etc...
IMPORTANT NOTE: These "What if.." are being used constructively and forward thinking! In other words, they are not to start/continue a downward spiral of negative emotions about something that happened in the past; e.g.: what if I had only not been talking on my cell phone, then I would not have hit that person.
THE APPLICATION
In the past, I would often wonder what it was I did to have somebody ask me something, or say a certain thing to me, or behave in a certain way. The fundamental assumption being, that I had to do something in order for that to happen.
When I ask myself "What if this situation has nothing to do with me?". My brain responds with something which may sound INSANE, but here it is. Maybe.... juuuuust maybe, it had nothing to do with me and it's simply that other people have their own 'stuff' going on.
What if it this was true? How would you handle that situation differently in the moment? And even more importantly, what different meanings might you attach to it?
Life's a trip. Give'r.
Your friend and coach,
Bryce
Some of my posts will be information, some of them humorous, some of them are meant to get you thinking, some of them (like this one) are simply a documentation of stuff that is rattling through my mind, and no doubt all will be a combination of the above! ha ha
On my trip of personal development, I have made it a habit to ask myself some tough questions.
For example: On August 16th, I asked myself:
- What is important to me in a 'job'?
- What type of book(s) would I bring on vacation with me to read?
- What would I still do if I never received any recognition for it; monetarily and socially?
This led me to discovering my destiny; being a world-class coach and professional speaker.
After attending Tony Robbins' signature event Date with Destiny last week, several new questions popped into my head which have become part of my daily routine. Two words form the basis of what is turning out to be some of the most powerful questions. Questions that have the potential to truly rock the foundation of my soul.
THE QUESTION
Something tells me you may just already know which two words I am referring to; 'What if...'. In the following example, I am using my 'What if...' questions to explore me being self centered. It can be used to explore any belief/assumption/reality you have in life.
What if this situation has nothing to do with me?
What if I had no control over what people thought of me?
What if the way that person is treating me/behaving around me has nothing to do with me?
What if the only way to fulfill my self (spacing intentional), is by being selfless?
What if the purpose of my life had nothing to do with me?
etc...
IMPORTANT NOTE: These "What if.." are being used constructively and forward thinking! In other words, they are not to start/continue a downward spiral of negative emotions about something that happened in the past; e.g.: what if I had only not been talking on my cell phone, then I would not have hit that person.
THE APPLICATION
In the past, I would often wonder what it was I did to have somebody ask me something, or say a certain thing to me, or behave in a certain way. The fundamental assumption being, that I had to do something in order for that to happen.
When I ask myself "What if this situation has nothing to do with me?". My brain responds with something which may sound INSANE, but here it is. Maybe.... juuuuust maybe, it had nothing to do with me and it's simply that other people have their own 'stuff' going on.
What if it this was true? How would you handle that situation differently in the moment? And even more importantly, what different meanings might you attach to it?
Life's a trip. Give'r.
Your friend and coach,
Bryce
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