What if....

INTRO

Some of my posts will be information, some of them humorous, some of them are meant to get you thinking, some of them (like this one) are simply a documentation of stuff that is rattling through my mind, and no doubt all will be a combination of the above! ha ha

On my trip of personal development, I have made it a habit to ask myself some tough questions.

For example:  On August 16th, I asked myself:
- What is important to me in a 'job'?
- What type of book(s) would I bring on vacation with me to read?
- What would I still do if I never received any recognition for it; monetarily and socially?

This led me to discovering my destiny; being a world-class coach and professional speaker.

After attending Tony Robbins' signature event Date with Destiny last week, several new questions popped into my head which have become part of my daily routine.  Two words form the basis of what is turning out to be some of the most powerful questions.  Questions that have the potential to truly rock the foundation of my soul.

THE QUESTION

Something tells me you may just already know which two words I am referring to; 'What if...'.  In the following example, I am using my 'What if...' questions to explore me being self centered. It can be used to explore any belief/assumption/reality you have in life.

What if this situation has nothing to do with me?
What if I had no control over what people thought of me?
What if the way that person is treating me/behaving around me has nothing to do with me?
What if the only way to fulfill my self (spacing intentional), is by being selfless?
What if the purpose of my life had nothing to do with me?
etc...

IMPORTANT NOTE: These "What if.." are being used constructively and forward thinking!  In other words, they are not to start/continue a downward spiral of negative emotions about something that happened in the past; e.g.: what if I had only not been talking on my cell phone, then I would not have hit that person.

THE APPLICATION

In the past, I would often wonder what it was I did to have somebody ask me something, or say a certain thing to me, or behave in a certain way.  The fundamental assumption being, that I had to do something in order for that to happen.

When I ask myself "What if this situation has nothing to do with me?". My brain responds with something which may sound INSANE, but here it is.  Maybe.... juuuuust maybe, it had nothing to do with me and it's simply that other people have their own 'stuff' going on. 

What if it this was true? How would you handle that situation differently in the moment? And even more importantly, what different meanings might you attach to it?

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Your friend and coach,
Bryce