Options are good!

Tony Robbins explains how in life, we always want options. 

Having only 1 choice means you don't have an option.  Not a nice feeling.   

Having 2 choices means you have a dilemma.  You can either do A or B.  People who live in a black and white reality like this because it keeps things simple.  Only having 2 choices is also the root of that internal feeling of when you are torn between what to do.  Sometimes it feels like you are torn between right (usually what you feel you should do) and wrong (usually want you want to do).

Having 3 or more choices means you have options!  This is when you start living in the grey.  Even better, step out of the grey and into colour and all the different shades/combinations thereof!  This may be a scary or stressful thought for those of you who like to keep things simple, but what would you rather, a simple life or a life of discovery, growth, and passion??!?!?

A fundamental presupposition of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is that the system (person) with the most flexibility will have the most influence on the system (other people, work environment, world, etc...).

Flexibility = Options = Power!

I have discovered a very simple way to do this by making a small change in the way you ask yourself questions.  Replace the word 'How' with the phrase 'What are all the ways...'.

For example, ask yourself the following:

How can I get to Fiji?

Your brain probably replied back with, buy a plane ticket and fly there.

Now ask yourself:

What are all the ways I can get to Fiji?

Completely different answer, no?  And didn't some of those options start to get you excited!?!?!  All of a sudden the 'task' of getting to Fiji became a part of the trip... part of the fun!

Here are some more to ask yourself...
What are all the ways I can show somebody special I love them?
What are all the ways I can make money and have fun?
What are all the ways I can live life to the absolute fullest right now?
What are all the ways I can improve on my physical health?
What are all the ways I can make a contribution?

For any situation, there is always at least 3 choices. If you are feeling torn or stressed about something, chances are you only see 1 or 2 choices. Stepping into the world of OPTIONS will help reduces stress significantly! And on the rare occasion you have 3 choices and still feel stressed.... focus on finding more choices!!!

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Your friend and coach,
Bryce

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