Options are good!

Tony Robbins explains how in life, we always want options. 

Having only 1 choice means you don't have an option.  Not a nice feeling.   

Having 2 choices means you have a dilemma.  You can either do A or B.  People who live in a black and white reality like this because it keeps things simple.  Only having 2 choices is also the root of that internal feeling of when you are torn between what to do.  Sometimes it feels like you are torn between right (usually what you feel you should do) and wrong (usually want you want to do).

Having 3 or more choices means you have options!  This is when you start living in the grey.  Even better, step out of the grey and into colour and all the different shades/combinations thereof!  This may be a scary or stressful thought for those of you who like to keep things simple, but what would you rather, a simple life or a life of discovery, growth, and passion??!?!?

A fundamental presupposition of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is that the system (person) with the most flexibility will have the most influence on the system (other people, work environment, world, etc...).

Flexibility = Options = Power!

I have discovered a very simple way to do this by making a small change in the way you ask yourself questions.  Replace the word 'How' with the phrase 'What are all the ways...'.

For example, ask yourself the following:

How can I get to Fiji?

Your brain probably replied back with, buy a plane ticket and fly there.

Now ask yourself:

What are all the ways I can get to Fiji?

Completely different answer, no?  And didn't some of those options start to get you excited!?!?!  All of a sudden the 'task' of getting to Fiji became a part of the trip... part of the fun!

Here are some more to ask yourself...
What are all the ways I can show somebody special I love them?
What are all the ways I can make money and have fun?
What are all the ways I can live life to the absolute fullest right now?
What are all the ways I can improve on my physical health?
What are all the ways I can make a contribution?

For any situation, there is always at least 3 choices. If you are feeling torn or stressed about something, chances are you only see 1 or 2 choices. Stepping into the world of OPTIONS will help reduces stress significantly! And on the rare occasion you have 3 choices and still feel stressed.... focus on finding more choices!!!

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Your friend and coach,
Bryce

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Tony Robbins' Secret Power!

As some of you may know, I just returned from Scottsdale, Arizona where I participated in one of Tony Robbins' signature events; Date with Destiny.

Words can not describe the awesomeness of this event and the impact it has had on me as well as the other 3,000 participants.  Simply put, "Life will never be the same.".

What most people want to know is...  WHAT IS HIS SECRET?

For a start, the man is well prepared! Tony has dedicated over 30 years of his life to the study of human dynamics and peak performance. (Worth noting: this is 30 years of Tony-time which would be equal to at least 300 years of average person's time.) He is also an NLP Guru (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)!

However Tony's secret, in my opinion (after all.. this is my blog) is the belief he instills in all of us. Participants come to these events believing in Tony and his abilities.  Throughout the event, Tony works with people in front of us all and you can physcally see them change before your very eyes! After a few of these, even the skeptics become believers.

Now what makes Tony one of the most incredible people on the face of the planet is that he gives this gift back to us.  He takes the belief all of us have in him and uses it to manifest a belief within ourselves to make massive changes in our lives.  In other words, we believe in Tony, Tony in turn believes in us, and soon we believe in ourselves. The very definition of empowerment!

What gifts have people entrusted with you in your life?  What do you do with these gifts?

Hmmmm.... something to think about.

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Bryce