Showing posts with label Tony Robbins. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tony Robbins. Show all posts

Friday, June 18, 2010

Are you ready?

Tony Robbins has said that "It is in the moments of decision that your destiny is shaped." For the context of this blog let's simplify to "It is in the moments that destiny is shaped."

If your moment to shine... to perform... to serve... to STEP UP and make a meaningful difference... called upon you, would you be ready to answer?

If the sales opportunity of a life time stepped into an elevator right now, what would you do?
If your ultimate career opportunity presented itself, are you prepared?
If the person of your dreams sat down next to you, do you even know what you would say?
If you had to make a decision right now that would define the direction of your life, would you know how to weigh out the options?

If life called upon you right now, are you ready... mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually?

"What we practice in private will be rewarded in public" - Maxim

Intellectually I understood this maxim and just recently it really started to hit home, but it wasn't until this evening that it became a part of me at a fundamental level.

As some of you may know, in addition to Coaching and Training, I am a Wedding Officiant. As I arrived onsite to perform a ceremony today, I was quickly ushered into a side room where I could see both the bride and groom together and the groom was sitting down crying… these were not tears of joy. It was only 15 minutes before the ceremony was scheduled to begin and he had just found out that his mother had been rushed to the intensive care unit of the hospital.

'Fortunately' I had watched a training video just 3 days ago which gave me the framework to best handle such an intense and delicate situation. Using this framework as well as the skills I have learned and practiced as a Coach, I was able to step up and make a difference in a moment of need.  What took place next was the most powerful ceremony I have ever witnessed or been a part of. Peace prevailed allowing Love to shine through.

If it wasn't for all the hours I had spent learning and, more importantly, reviewing and practicing my skills in private, there is no way I would have been ready to play my part.

I don't say this to impress you, I say this to impress upon you the importance of 'practicing in private' or as the Boy Scouts of America would say, to "Be Prepared.".

Too often we only prepare or practice when there is an immediate perceived benefit.... a planned event such as an interview.

Life, however, is what happens between the plans.

Dream you life. Live your dreams.

Your friend and Coach,
Bryce

Thursday, May 20, 2010

The Power of Making a Decision

"It is in the moments of decision that your destiny is shaped." - Tony Robbins aka The Man

Whether your conscious of them or not, you are making thousands of decisions a day.  The challenge is, you make the same ones or poor ones.You can have anything you want in life simply by DECIDING to make it so.

That being said, let's check in on what the true definition of making a decision is.  According to Dictionary.com the origin comes from "to cut off from".  Meaning, when you have made a TRUE DECISION, you have cut off from all other possibilities.

There is an old story about a great warrior and leader who sailed with his army to face a fierce enemy which outnumbered them.  Upon arrival, he ordered the boats to be burned. When questioned of his intentions, he responded that now the only way to survive is by winning! And as the story goes, that is exactly what they did.  A perfect example of making a true decision.

Furthermore and in my opinion, when you have made a true decision, action in the direction of that decision immediately follows.  Otherwise, you haven't decided, you are still considering options and/or reaffirming your desire.

To continue the riddle theme from my last post....  There are 5 birds sitting on a wire, one decides to fly off, how many are left?

Answer: It depends on your definition of decision.

In the old definition, 5 birds would remain, as making a decision didn't hold any weight.
In your new defitinion, 4 birds would remain, as action would immediately follow.
And if that bird was a leader, no birds would remain.

OK, time to get real.

If you don't already know, I am hosting my first public seminar in a couple weeks (June 2, 2010 see the events section of my website for more details,  http://www.brycehealey.com/ ). Its FREE and you are all welcome!

How did this become a reality? I decided.  Honestly, it was something I knew I would do 'one day' and had talked about it several times, but had not decided to.  So how did I decide???  Well... I was in the shower and the thought of doing a seminar popped in my head... AGAIN.  And I said to myself "Enough is enough." Immediately after my shower and barely dry, I booked the venue. ACTION!

So...  now I had a date and a location.  All I needed was an audience and what it was I was going to say.  Minor details.. ha ha. Fast forward to today, already I have 10 people confirmed and the framework for my speech is complete.

And again, how did this become a reality? I decided. One simple decision backed with action.

So perhaps now or this weekend, start making some decisions.  If its been a while start small or maybe for now its simply the decision to start making and acknowledging true decisions when you make them.

Either way, the path to your destiny is paved with conscious decision making.  And you don't want to know what the other path is paved with.

Your friend and Coach,
Bryce

PS - If you liked this post and need help in this area. Contact me for a free coaching session OR if you prefer a do it on your own method, Tony Robbins' Person Power is the best there is on the topic.

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Thursday, February 18, 2010

The Ten Day Challenge! - Day 1

Hi everyone:

Yesterday my coach (yes, even coaches have coaches...  everybody can benefit from a coach) invited me to take Tony Robbins' 10 day challenge. For those of you that have his book "Awaken the Giant Within", it starts on page 309.  For those that don't have it....  buy a copy now.  This book will change your life.


The essence of the challenge is this: For the next 10 consecutive days, refuse to dwell on any unresourceful  (negative) thoughts or feeling.Or to state this in the positive: Focus only on resourceful throughts or emotions.

To be clear, this doesn't mean you aren't allowed to temporarily experience a negative thought as let's face it, they will happen. The purpose here is to not DWELL on them.  As described in the challenge, when you realize you are experiencing a negative thought or emotion, you have 1 minute to break the pattern.

If you dwell longer than 1 minute, you restart your 10 days.

Again, my coach extended me this challenge and I have excepted.  In turn, I am extending the challenge to all of you!  Are you up for it???  Come on... I triple dog dare you.. no stampsies or erasies.

This is day 1 for me... and so far so good! I will do my best to blog each day so you can follow along.  Furthermore, I encourage all you who are brave enough to accept the challenge to post your comments as to your progress.

And as if a challenge isn't enough to motivate you.  For all of those who do decide they are man/woman enough to do this....  contact me through my website (http://www.brycehealey.com/) and I will give you a FREE coaching session in which I will give you a few tools of exactly how to break your negative state.

The first step in creating a breakthrough in your life is awareness, which this exercise will give you plenty of.

Life's a trip. Give'r!

Your friend and Coach,
Bryce

PS - FREE is good, and the next best thing is an amazing deal and my new coaching packages are just that! Check them out at http://www.brycehealey.com/Get_Started_Now.html.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Like a Virgin in Vegas

First off, something tells me a virgin wouldn't last too long in Sin City!

HAPPY 2010!!!  How are your New Years resolutions coming along? Having challenges sticking with them? If so, make sure to visit my website regularly as I will be posting some exciting updates soon.  And for those who resolved not to make any resolutions, heed these words: "The only constant in life is change".  If you are not deciding your future, who is?

OK, time to get to today's blog...

Me and a good friend returned from Vegas not so long ago where we attended a Business Mastery seminar hosted by the one and only Tony Robbins (you the man Tony... you the man).  It was his first time and I had been there once before about 3 years ago (also on business).

As the plane commenced its final decent into Vegas, my friend was bubbling with anticipation.  I on the other hand was relatively calm... after all, I had been there before.

Arriving at our hotel (the Venetian!), he was blown away by the lobby; the sheer size and detail! I on the other hand was expecting this... after all, I stayed at Caesar's Palace last time.

Walking down the strip, he had his camera ready and was quick to point out... well... pretty much everything.  I looked at him in amusement and took in the sights... after all, I had seen this before.

Day 1 of the event, I thought he might wet his pants as the crowd worked itself into a frenzy waiting for Tony Robbins to hit the stage. OK, I was excited too, but he had that extra special anticipation.

Going for lunch, he commented on all the different (especially high end) stores, the size of the hotel, and all the attractions along the way to the food court. I was focused on getting some food in my stomach... after all, this wasn't new to me.

Pretty much the entire trip, his level of excitement over the smallest things way surpassed mine.  It appeared he was having WAY more fun than I was. Makes sense... after all, I had been to Vegas once before.

So???  I had been to Vegas ONCE before and even then barely got to see it! It's not like I am an expert on the place and even if I was... SO????

How does having seen or experienced something take away from the awesomeness of the event? IT DOESN'T!

How would your experience of life be different if you were doing so as if it was the first time...
your first time waking up beside your lover...
your first time having sex...
your first time putting on comfy socks...
your first time eating your favourite breakfast...
your first experience in a car (but please drive like you know what you are doing! ha ha)...
your first time outside...
your first time breathing in a full breathe...
your first time telling somebody you love them...
your first sunset...

What would you notice differently? 
What is in your life now you would have killed to have in your life only years or maybe only even months ago?
WHO is in your life your life?
What amazing areas of your life have you become desensitized to that you simply need to reconnect with and re-appreciate?

I challenge you all to experience a day with virgin eyes, virgin ears, a virgin nose, a virgin mouth, virgin hands, a virgin body......... a virgin heart.

If Madonna can sing about being touched like a virgin, we can certainly relive it at least once!

Your friend and Coach,
Bryce

http://www.brycehealey.com/
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Saturday, December 19, 2009

Options are good!

Tony Robbins explains how in life, we always want options. 

Having only 1 choice means you don't have an option.  Not a nice feeling.   

Having 2 choices means you have a dilemma.  You can either do A or B.  People who live in a black and white reality like this because it keeps things simple.  Only having 2 choices is also the root of that internal feeling of when you are torn between what to do.  Sometimes it feels like you are torn between right (usually what you feel you should do) and wrong (usually want you want to do).

Having 3 or more choices means you have options!  This is when you start living in the grey.  Even better, step out of the grey and into colour and all the different shades/combinations thereof!  This may be a scary or stressful thought for those of you who like to keep things simple, but what would you rather, a simple life or a life of discovery, growth, and passion??!?!?

A fundamental presupposition of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is that the system (person) with the most flexibility will have the most influence on the system (other people, work environment, world, etc...).

Flexibility = Options = Power!

I have discovered a very simple way to do this by making a small change in the way you ask yourself questions.  Replace the word 'How' with the phrase 'What are all the ways...'.

For example, ask yourself the following:

How can I get to Fiji?

Your brain probably replied back with, buy a plane ticket and fly there.

Now ask yourself:

What are all the ways I can get to Fiji?

Completely different answer, no?  And didn't some of those options start to get you excited!?!?!  All of a sudden the 'task' of getting to Fiji became a part of the trip... part of the fun!

Here are some more to ask yourself...
What are all the ways I can show somebody special I love them?
What are all the ways I can make money and have fun?
What are all the ways I can live life to the absolute fullest right now?
What are all the ways I can improve on my physical health?
What are all the ways I can make a contribution?

For any situation, there is always at least 3 choices. If you are feeling torn or stressed about something, chances are you only see 1 or 2 choices. Stepping into the world of OPTIONS will help reduces stress significantly! And on the rare occasion you have 3 choices and still feel stressed.... focus on finding more choices!!!

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Your friend and coach,
Bryce

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Friday, December 18, 2009

What if....

INTRO

Some of my posts will be information, some of them humorous, some of them are meant to get you thinking, some of them (like this one) are simply a documentation of stuff that is rattling through my mind, and no doubt all will be a combination of the above! ha ha

On my trip of personal development, I have made it a habit to ask myself some tough questions.

For example:  On August 16th, I asked myself:
- What is important to me in a 'job'?
- What type of book(s) would I bring on vacation with me to read?
- What would I still do if I never received any recognition for it; monetarily and socially?

This led me to discovering my destiny; being a world-class coach and professional speaker.

After attending Tony Robbins' signature event Date with Destiny last week, several new questions popped into my head which have become part of my daily routine.  Two words form the basis of what is turning out to be some of the most powerful questions.  Questions that have the potential to truly rock the foundation of my soul.

THE QUESTION

Something tells me you may just already know which two words I am referring to; 'What if...'.  In the following example, I am using my 'What if...' questions to explore me being self centered. It can be used to explore any belief/assumption/reality you have in life.

What if this situation has nothing to do with me?
What if I had no control over what people thought of me?
What if the way that person is treating me/behaving around me has nothing to do with me?
What if the only way to fulfill my self (spacing intentional), is by being selfless?
What if the purpose of my life had nothing to do with me?
etc...

IMPORTANT NOTE: These "What if.." are being used constructively and forward thinking!  In other words, they are not to start/continue a downward spiral of negative emotions about something that happened in the past; e.g.: what if I had only not been talking on my cell phone, then I would not have hit that person.

THE APPLICATION

In the past, I would often wonder what it was I did to have somebody ask me something, or say a certain thing to me, or behave in a certain way.  The fundamental assumption being, that I had to do something in order for that to happen.

When I ask myself "What if this situation has nothing to do with me?". My brain responds with something which may sound INSANE, but here it is.  Maybe.... juuuuust maybe, it had nothing to do with me and it's simply that other people have their own 'stuff' going on. 

What if it this was true? How would you handle that situation differently in the moment? And even more importantly, what different meanings might you attach to it?

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Your friend and coach,
Bryce

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Tony Robbins' Secret Power!

As some of you may know, I just returned from Scottsdale, Arizona where I participated in one of Tony Robbins' signature events; Date with Destiny.

Words can not describe the awesomeness of this event and the impact it has had on me as well as the other 3,000 participants.  Simply put, "Life will never be the same.".

What most people want to know is...  WHAT IS HIS SECRET?

For a start, the man is well prepared! Tony has dedicated over 30 years of his life to the study of human dynamics and peak performance. (Worth noting: this is 30 years of Tony-time which would be equal to at least 300 years of average person's time.) He is also an NLP Guru (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)!

However Tony's secret, in my opinion (after all.. this is my blog) is the belief he instills in all of us. Participants come to these events believing in Tony and his abilities.  Throughout the event, Tony works with people in front of us all and you can physcally see them change before your very eyes! After a few of these, even the skeptics become believers.

Now what makes Tony one of the most incredible people on the face of the planet is that he gives this gift back to us.  He takes the belief all of us have in him and uses it to manifest a belief within ourselves to make massive changes in our lives.  In other words, we believe in Tony, Tony in turn believes in us, and soon we believe in ourselves. The very definition of empowerment!

What gifts have people entrusted with you in your life?  What do you do with these gifts?

Hmmmm.... something to think about.

Life's a trip. Give'r.

Bryce