Tony Robbins has said that "It is in the moments of decision that your destiny is shaped." For the context of this blog let's simplify to "It is in the moments that destiny is shaped."
If your moment to shine... to perform... to serve... to STEP UP and make a meaningful difference... called upon you, would you be ready to answer?
If the sales opportunity of a life time stepped into an elevator right now, what would you do?
If your ultimate career opportunity presented itself, are you prepared?
If the person of your dreams sat down next to you, do you even know what you would say?
If you had to make a decision right now that would define the direction of your life, would you know how to weigh out the options?
If life called upon you right now, are you ready... mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually?
"What we practice in private will be rewarded in public" - Maxim
Intellectually I understood this maxim and just recently it really started to hit home, but it wasn't until this evening that it became a part of me at a fundamental level.
As some of you may know, in addition to Coaching and Training, I am a Wedding Officiant. As I arrived onsite to perform a ceremony today, I was quickly ushered into a side room where I could see both the bride and groom together and the groom was sitting down crying… these were not tears of joy. It was only 15 minutes before the ceremony was scheduled to begin and he had just found out that his mother had been rushed to the intensive care unit of the hospital.
'Fortunately' I had watched a training video just 3 days ago which gave me the framework to best handle such an intense and delicate situation. Using this framework as well as the skills I have learned and practiced as a Coach, I was able to step up and make a difference in a moment of need. What took place next was the most powerful ceremony I have ever witnessed or been a part of. Peace prevailed allowing Love to shine through.
If it wasn't for all the hours I had spent learning and, more importantly, reviewing and practicing my skills in private, there is no way I would have been ready to play my part.
I don't say this to impress you, I say this to impress upon you the importance of 'practicing in private' or as the Boy Scouts of America would say, to "Be Prepared.".
Too often we only prepare or practice when there is an immediate perceived benefit.... a planned event such as an interview.
Life, however, is what happens between the plans.
Dream you life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
Friday, June 18, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Food for thought
If you have felt something all of your life, how would you know if it is good or bad?
In my on-going pursuit to live life to the fullest, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet according to a book called Eat Right for Your Blood Type.
It makes sense that that not all diets are meant for all people. In this book Dr. Peter J D'Adamo goes into great detail to list the foods that are either beneficial, neutral, or harmful depending on if your blood type is O, A, B, or AB.
So again, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet to take out things like Corn and Potatoes (2 of my staples ever since I was born!!!) and eat according to my O blood type. I had a very good nutrition plan in place before this, so I didn't notice any major differences right away. However lately I have started noticing small things such as not feeling any little aches in my bones/back as much, more mental clarity, and what can only be described as a more stable flow of energy (i.e.: less ups and downs.. peaks and valleys).
But the biggest difference and adjustment has been that its rare I feel trully full! All my life (or at least as long as I can remember), I would eat... eat... and eat some more and then feel full for about 30-60 minutes afterwards. You know... that feeling that you get after a nice big turkey supper (just not that extreme! ha ha).
Now, there'll be a big plate of food in front of me, which I devour in my usual ferocity, but when I am done I don't feel full. The hunger is gone and I don't have any real desire to eat any more, but I don't feel full. Even now, I question if I should keep eating until I feel this feeling of full I have been feeling all my life. After all, feeling full used to be the signal to me to stop putting food in my mouth. Could this have been wrong all my life? Is this how you are meant to feel?
All very strange and gets me curious as to what other feelings I may be experience which are either wrong or misleading.
What thoughts or feelings have you had your entire life (or a long time) which you have just accepted as life but in reality may not be appropriate?
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
In my on-going pursuit to live life to the fullest, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet according to a book called Eat Right for Your Blood Type.
It makes sense that that not all diets are meant for all people. In this book Dr. Peter J D'Adamo goes into great detail to list the foods that are either beneficial, neutral, or harmful depending on if your blood type is O, A, B, or AB.
So again, 2 weeks ago I switched my diet to take out things like Corn and Potatoes (2 of my staples ever since I was born!!!) and eat according to my O blood type. I had a very good nutrition plan in place before this, so I didn't notice any major differences right away. However lately I have started noticing small things such as not feeling any little aches in my bones/back as much, more mental clarity, and what can only be described as a more stable flow of energy (i.e.: less ups and downs.. peaks and valleys).
But the biggest difference and adjustment has been that its rare I feel trully full! All my life (or at least as long as I can remember), I would eat... eat... and eat some more and then feel full for about 30-60 minutes afterwards. You know... that feeling that you get after a nice big turkey supper (just not that extreme! ha ha).
Now, there'll be a big plate of food in front of me, which I devour in my usual ferocity, but when I am done I don't feel full. The hunger is gone and I don't have any real desire to eat any more, but I don't feel full. Even now, I question if I should keep eating until I feel this feeling of full I have been feeling all my life. After all, feeling full used to be the signal to me to stop putting food in my mouth. Could this have been wrong all my life? Is this how you are meant to feel?
All very strange and gets me curious as to what other feelings I may be experience which are either wrong or misleading.
What thoughts or feelings have you had your entire life (or a long time) which you have just accepted as life but in reality may not be appropriate?
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Misunderstood Magnets Mislead
How often have you heard the expression, "Opposites attract."?
You have probably heard this so often that you accept it as such and WHAMMO you have a belief installed into the fiber of your being. A belief which affects the decisions you make and the way you see and shape your world on a conscious and unconscious level.
Perhaps it started as a kid when you were playing with magnets. Next thing you know this belief was applied to the dating world and so we search for our opposite.
What if this belief wasn't true?
What if opposites repell and likes attract?
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I first started to question the theory that 'opposites attract' after reading in many different personal development and success books how 'likes attract'. A simple example would be if you focus your mind on riches and you get riches, conversely you focus on debt and you get debt.
Given that universal laws apply universally, how could two laws exist which directly contradict each other?
As it turns out one of them doesn't exist (except for in our minds) and you guessed it, it's 'Opposites Attract' when instead the reality is that LIKES ATTRACT and OPPOSITES REPEL.
THE MAGNET UNDERSTOOD
The below shows the magnetic lines of force surrounding a magnet. As you can see, they come out of the North end at enter the South end therefore flowing South to North.
The following shows two magnets with like ends pointing towards each other. Yes the like ends will repel each other which seems to go against the point I am making, however if you look at the flow of the magnetic lines, which is the natural force at hand, they are OPPOSITE (i.e.: they are flowing directly against each other) and therefore are REPELLING.
The next picture depicts the reverse. As you can see, even though we have them labelled as opposite ends, it is again the underlying natural force which follows the Universal Law, which is that LIKES ATTRACT.
OK, so that explains magnet, but what about relationships? How does the Universal Law of Likes Attract apply?
Quick definitions: by Relationship I am referring to everything from a friendship to an intimate relationship and Attraction does not necessarily mean physical attraction.
Simply put, you are attracted to those who you feel are like you. There are common bonds between you and all of your friends, wither they be good or bad bonds. An example of bad may be drug or alcolohol use/abuse.
At work, you and your colleagues have a common bond or mission; that of the company. In organization where there is not a clear mission, or where departmental missions are stronger than the overall mission, you will see departments and people repel as the organization falls apart.
This can also be seen in sports teams... the common and dominating force is that of winning! If an individual has a dominating force other than that of the team (for example: showing off), that person will be repelled by the team and the overall force of the team will be lower UNLESS you can align their 'showing off' with the team winning.
Going back to individual relationships, when you first start dating somebody, you go through an interview like process where you are seeking out all of the common bonds. What is interesting, is that you don't need to agree to have the bond. For example, two people who are very passionate about sports but different teams. Even though they have opposing opinions, the common bond is the love of that sport!
This would also explain that you tend to attract people who are going through the same struggles as you.
OK, SO HOW DOES THIS APPLY TO ME?
Consider yourself one big, walking, talking magnet. If you don't like what you are attracting, ask yourself what there might be in your life that is attracting this (and of course remembering that LIKES ATTRACT).
The other lesson goes hand in hand with focus. A popular example would be getting out of debt. If you want to get out of debt, instead of focussing on paying off debt, focus on gaining money. A real life example, I have a fishbowl on my desk with a picture of my future Harley on it. A few months ago I put $40 in it as an experiement to start attracting money. I then found myself throwing in change and the odd bill into it. One day my dad was visiting and he even felt the attraction and threw some money in. I still have a ways to go before this money attracts the Harley, however the point here is if I had never started I would have no money in there.
Like attracts like.
Dream your life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
PS - Kinda makes you wonder what other beliefs you may need to reconsider....
You have probably heard this so often that you accept it as such and WHAMMO you have a belief installed into the fiber of your being. A belief which affects the decisions you make and the way you see and shape your world on a conscious and unconscious level.
Perhaps it started as a kid when you were playing with magnets. Next thing you know this belief was applied to the dating world and so we search for our opposite.
What if this belief wasn't true?
What if opposites repell and likes attract?
.
.
.
I first started to question the theory that 'opposites attract' after reading in many different personal development and success books how 'likes attract'. A simple example would be if you focus your mind on riches and you get riches, conversely you focus on debt and you get debt.
Given that universal laws apply universally, how could two laws exist which directly contradict each other?
As it turns out one of them doesn't exist (except for in our minds) and you guessed it, it's 'Opposites Attract' when instead the reality is that LIKES ATTRACT and OPPOSITES REPEL.
THE MAGNET UNDERSTOOD
The below shows the magnetic lines of force surrounding a magnet. As you can see, they come out of the North end at enter the South end therefore flowing South to North.
The following shows two magnets with like ends pointing towards each other. Yes the like ends will repel each other which seems to go against the point I am making, however if you look at the flow of the magnetic lines, which is the natural force at hand, they are OPPOSITE (i.e.: they are flowing directly against each other) and therefore are REPELLING.
The next picture depicts the reverse. As you can see, even though we have them labelled as opposite ends, it is again the underlying natural force which follows the Universal Law, which is that LIKES ATTRACT.
OK, so that explains magnet, but what about relationships? How does the Universal Law of Likes Attract apply?
Quick definitions: by Relationship I am referring to everything from a friendship to an intimate relationship and Attraction does not necessarily mean physical attraction.
Simply put, you are attracted to those who you feel are like you. There are common bonds between you and all of your friends, wither they be good or bad bonds. An example of bad may be drug or alcolohol use/abuse.
At work, you and your colleagues have a common bond or mission; that of the company. In organization where there is not a clear mission, or where departmental missions are stronger than the overall mission, you will see departments and people repel as the organization falls apart.
This can also be seen in sports teams... the common and dominating force is that of winning! If an individual has a dominating force other than that of the team (for example: showing off), that person will be repelled by the team and the overall force of the team will be lower UNLESS you can align their 'showing off' with the team winning.
Going back to individual relationships, when you first start dating somebody, you go through an interview like process where you are seeking out all of the common bonds. What is interesting, is that you don't need to agree to have the bond. For example, two people who are very passionate about sports but different teams. Even though they have opposing opinions, the common bond is the love of that sport!
This would also explain that you tend to attract people who are going through the same struggles as you.
OK, SO HOW DOES THIS APPLY TO ME?
Consider yourself one big, walking, talking magnet. If you don't like what you are attracting, ask yourself what there might be in your life that is attracting this (and of course remembering that LIKES ATTRACT).
The other lesson goes hand in hand with focus. A popular example would be getting out of debt. If you want to get out of debt, instead of focussing on paying off debt, focus on gaining money. A real life example, I have a fishbowl on my desk with a picture of my future Harley on it. A few months ago I put $40 in it as an experiement to start attracting money. I then found myself throwing in change and the odd bill into it. One day my dad was visiting and he even felt the attraction and threw some money in. I still have a ways to go before this money attracts the Harley, however the point here is if I had never started I would have no money in there.
Like attracts like.
Dream your life. Live your dreams.
Your friend and Coach,
Bryce
PS - Kinda makes you wonder what other beliefs you may need to reconsider....
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